totally agreed with the sentiment against discord.
here are the rest of my 2 cents…
i’m not too happy with matrix or element either.
no idea about terms, i just think their whole things are way too buggy.
i prefer either telegram or, hear me out: delta chat. now that’s some amazing piece of architecture there! just not sure how to set up an open group or something… they’re still starting.
none of those have competing audio features with discord or element. but, at very least, just wanted to point out, perhaps such features aren’t needed.
in any case, it’s great you didn’t go with discord!
(ps: then again, discourse isn’t stellar either… i’m only here because i don’t have to install it and it’s at least rather easy to delete once they turn completely evil or useless in the near future. nodebb is a much better direct alternative, but i’m still to see a good reason to host a forum rather than using mastodon, lbry, or something).